I think that it is safe to say, we are all looking for a little peace.
No matter what we do for a living or how we spend our time, in the end, it’s usually about finding that inner peace.
Each day those voices in our head that make us question every decision, big or small, can be overwhelming.
Am I working hard enough?
Did I say the right thing?
Did they like my presentation?
Am I working hard enough? ( yes that deserves a second one)
Did I make enough calls?
Am I being a good partner, parent, etc….the list goes on.
What’s a man to do to find that inner peace?
After years of research and much trial and error, I give you these best practices.
Give them a try and let me know how you make out:
9 Essential Steps to Cultivating Inner Peace:
We can consciously decide which thoughts to follow and which ones to reject. As little as 20 minutes of meditation a day will replenish your emotional resources and allow you to keep your cool when facing challenging situations. (You can start with five by reminding yourself by saying “give me five”)
2. Delegate your worries to the Universe (seriously)
May sound hokey to some, although “have faith” and “trust the Universe” really do work. I have my friend Joe Eppy,@joeeppy, to thank for teaching me that we cannot control outcomes, so why spend the time and energy trying. Thank you Joe!
3. Do not over plan and over think
We often lose peace of mind by bringing tomorrow’s problems into the present moment. We unnecessarily overcomplicate our life by endless planning and playing ‘what if’ scenarios in our mind. While setting goals and having aspirations is important do not let your groundless fears take your focus away from the beauty, peace, and joy of today. This is what living in the moment and practicing awareness is all about.
4. Do not become enslaved by ‘the stuff’
There is also no point in being “the wealthiest skeleton in the grave yard”. Our time and energy on this earth is limited and should be spent purposely.
5. Do not take other people’s problems upon your shoulders
6. Do not be dragged down by guilt
We have all done things we are not proud of. If we could go back and change them, we would, but we cannot. What happened in the past is gone and there is nothing you or I can do about it. Feeling guilty for past mistakes will not rectify them. It only burdens us down and robs us of peace of mind. Learn from your past but be willing to forgive yourself and move on.
7. Become criticism-proof
Do not take criticism and negativity personally. There is a huge difference between what people say and what they mean. But there is even greater difference between what people do and who they really are.
8. Finish what you start
There is a special type of memory responsible for remembering all of the tasks and objectives left incomplete. Until we get these tasks done, our mind will continue to remind us about them even when we try to focus on new goals. It seems to be in human nature to finish what we have started and often restoring peace of mind and getting rid of inner tension is just a matter of bringing unfinished tasks to a completion.
9. Stay away from inertia ( fondly known as GOYA or get off your ass!)
True inner peace and satisfaction comes from living a purposeful life, empowering others, and pursuing meaningful goals. We all need to enjoy vacations and downtime, although that is NOT the key to inner peace.
So there you have it.
These are my top 9, although I am sure there are plenty of other ways to find inner peace, feel free to share .
Peace out for now!
And that’s what Nudelberg says!